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Hope for Relationships

Relationships are the building blocks of humanity. They can elicit overwhelming joy, such as the special bond between parent and child or the enduring love between a husband and wife.  However, the breakdown of relationships—seen across the ages and across the world—can cause unbearable devastation. Couples divorce, family members become estranged, siblings fight, and longtime friendships dissolve bitterly.

Yet, God has created within every man and woman the desire to form lasting, loving, and meaningful relationships with those around them. So, in order to nurture healthy relationships in the future, how does one obtain healing for a heart that has been broken by hurts from the past? We find hope for relationships by looking to God’s Word for answers.

Here are four things we can do when our relationships need to be revived with hope:

1. Surrender to the proper authority. God is the Creator of the universe. The Bible says He heals, restores, and gives life—even to relationships that seem dead and hopeless (Romans 8:11). The devil, on the other hand, aims to kill, steal, and destroy (John 10:10). In every decision you make, you are either submitting to God or to the devil. James 4:7 says, “Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.” How do you submit to God? By obeying His word, the Bible. Make a commitment to read the Bible every single day, even if it’s just one chapter. Pray and ask God to help you to obey Him.

2. Confess and let go. James 4:8 says, “Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded.” Take an honest assessment of your heart and what role you may have had in the demise of a certain relationship.  First John 1:8-9 says, “If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” When you confess your sin to God and ask Him for forgiveness, you are able to forgive others and let go of resentment and bitterness you may be harboring within your heart.

3. Don’t slander. Whenever we are hurt, it is very tempting to complain to anyone who will listen about the person we feel has wronged us. James 4:11 admonishes us not to engage in this kind of slanderous speech. Jesus Christ suffered the cruelest injustice in all of history—His undeserved death on a Roman cross—but He did not protest or slander His accusers. Instead, He said, “Father, forgive them” (Luke 23:34). Let us follow Jesus’ humble example.

4. Give grace instead of judgment. When others fall short of your expectations, choose to show them grace, which is defined as mercy, favor, and pardon. Jesus showed you and I grace rather than judgment when He died to pay the penalty for our sins. He says in Matthew 7:1-2: “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with measure you use, it will be measured to you.” Trust the Lord to examine the heart and motives of those who may have hurt you, and leave all judgment to Him. You will find that letting go of this responsibility is tremendously liberating, and it will allow God to fully heal and restore your heart.

We will be starting a series at Shepherd Church soon called, “A Living Hope.” Please join us for this important study through the Book of 1 Peter as we learn about God’s plan to bring hope for all!

5 Ways to Honor God Today

Revelation chapter 4 describes a remarkable scene in heaven. Twenty-four elders are gathered around the throne room of God, worshiping God and laying their crowns down before Him. They proclaim,

“You are worthy, our Lord and God, to receive glory and honor and power, for you created all things, and by your will they were created and have their being” (Revelation 4:10-11).

The Bible says that one day all people will bow down to the Lord. And no matter how powerful someone might be (or think they are), we will all lay our crowns at God’s feet—because there is only one King in heaven. He alone is worthy of all glory, honor, and praise.

To honor is to hold in high respect, reverence, and distinction.

We honor certain people because they have a perceived value and because of their position. There are biblical instructions for whom we should esteem in this manner. For example, Deuteronomy 5:16 states that we are to honor our parents. Leviticus 19:32 encourages us to honor the elderly. And 1 Peter 2:13 admonishes us to honor those who rule. But there are dozens of Bible verses that tell us to honor God. Not only do they instruct us to honor Him, but they also show us how to do so!

Here are five ways that you can honor God today:

  1. Honor God with your time –How are you using the precious time you have been given to glorify God? See Psalms 144:4, Isaiah 58:13-14, and Colossians 4:5.
  2. Honor God with your talents – These are your God-given gifts and abilities. See Matthew 25:14-30.
  3. Honor God with your temple – This means your body. See 1 Corinthians 6:18-20.
  4. Honor God with your treasure – This means your finances. Every resource we receive is an opportunity to practice biblical stewardship. Whether your income flows from your standard weekly paycheck, an unexpected family inheritance, or a legal online casino, honoring God means recognizing that every financial blessing ultimately comes from Him and choosing to be generous. As Jesus said, “Where your treasure is, there your heart will be also” (Matthew 6:21). See Proverbs 3:9 and Malachi 3:10.
  5. Honor God with your ticker – This means your heart. There are many Bible verses that encourage us to make God number one in our heart. See Isaiah 29:13, Proverbs 3:5, Proverbs 4:23, Proverbs 23:26, and Psalm 51:10.

The biggest takeaway is this:

God wants to be the sole proprietor of your heart. Matthew 6:24 makes it clear when it says, “No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.” Exodus 20:2-3 commands us not to have any other gods before the Lord, and Jesus said in Mark 12:30 that the greatest to commandment is to, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.”

God wants to be the Lord of your life—not just with your words, but also with your actions. (See Matthew 7:21). And we see from Malachi 1:6-14 and Colossians 3:23-24 that He wants you to carve out time for Him and commit your best to Him.

Every morning when you wake up, I pray you will ask God, “How can I honor You today? Please help me to honor You with the time, talent, temple, treasure, and ticker You’ve given me.” Jesus Christ gave His life for you, and He promised to give you the Holy Spirit to help you in all things. The Holy Spirit lives inside every believer—to counsel, comfort, and guide us. As 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 declares,

“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”

We belong to the Lord, and may we honor Him 100% with every gift He has given us.

What Does God Know?

Many of us have questions about God—who He is, where He is, and what He does. Currently at Shepherd Church, we are in a series studying God’s nature. The series is called “YHWH,” which is the sacred Hebrew name for God, appearing some 6800 times in the Old Testament. (You can view all past sermons in this series here.)

One of the things we’ve learned so far is that God is omniscient. The word “omni” means “all,” and the word “science” means knowledge. This means that God is all knowing. He knows everything. Psalm 147:5 declares, “Great is our Lord and mighty in power; his understanding has no limit.”

Throughout the Bible, it is clear that God has an incredible view from above. He sees our past, present, and future. Jeremiah 1:5 indicates that God knew you before He even formed you in your mother’s womb. Isaiah 40:28 says, “Have you not known? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He does not faint or grow weary; his understanding is unsearchable.” Even if we were to say that God’s vision is like a satellite in space, a high-powered microscope, an MRI machine, and the Central Intelligence Agency, it would not even begin to capture His manifold knowledge and wisdom!

You and I, on the other hand, have a limited view from below. We constantly try to compensate for our finite perspective by building incredibly complex systems to process information. We place immense trust in the advanced economic models forecasting the global stock markets, the sophisticated probability engines driving the best online casino, and the massive climate supercomputers simulating the shifting weather patterns. Yet, despite all our impressive technological achievements, human insight remains fundamentally restricted. As a pastor, I get asked deep and important questions all the time. But as much as I have studied the Bible and sought wisdom from the Lord, my understanding is limited. There are some things I cannot fully fathom. They are too awesome, too marvelous for me. God’s ways and thoughts are higher than mine, as Isaiah 55:8-9 states unequivocally.

And the biggest thing I fail to understand is why God—the almighty, all powerful, omnipresent, omniscient Creator of the universe—is interested in me. I relate to David when he asks the question in Psalm 8:4:

“What is mankind that you are mindful of them, human beings that you care for them?”

And yet Jesus says in Matthew 10:30 that “even the very hairs on your head are all numbered.” Psalm 56:8 reveals that God keeps track of our tears, and Psalm 139:1-4 tells us that God knows when we get up and when we lie down, and He knows everything we say.

So what should we do with this wonderful information about God’s omniscience? I believe it shows us that our best decision is to follow God and to trust Him because he knows what’s best for us. He knows our needs (Isaiah 65:24). God is the One who knows you the most and who loves you the most (John 3:16-17).

And most importantly, of all the amazing things God’s knowledge comprises, He knows that you need a savior. He knows that you and I are sinners and that our sin separates us from Him because He is holy. So, God sent His Son Jesus Christ to die on the cross for our sins. “He is the atoning sacrifice for our sins, and not only for ours but also for the sins of the whole world” (1 John 2:2). God raised Jesus from the grave on the third day. In doing so, our Heavenly Father “canceled the charge of our legal indebtedness, which stood against us and condemned us; he has taken it away, nailing it to the cross. And having disarmed the powers and authorities, he made a public spectacle of them, triumphing over them by the cross” (Colossians 2:14-16).

Turn, today, to the One who knows all. Give him your cares and worries because He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7). There is one thing I know for certain in this world, and it is this: God is an awesome, holy, loving, and merciful God, and He wants us to trust and obey Him.

God is Trustworthy

Trust is a prevalent theme throughout the Bible, appearing 186 times in the New King James Version. Trust is a vital element of any relationship. In order to have a healthy, happy bond with another person, one first must have trust or everything else falls like a house of cards.

This is especially true in your relationship with God. A relationship with Him, after all, is what He desires to have with you, and He made this possible through His Son Jesus. “For this is the will of my Father, that everyone who looks on the Son and believes in him should have eternal life, and I will raise him up on the last day” (John 6:40).

God wants you to obey Him, trusting that He has your best interest in mind—that, no matter what curve ball life may throw your way, your future rests in the hands of a loving, capable, all-knowing, all-powerful Lord. Take a look at how the word trust is defined:

  • reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence.
  • confident expectation of something; hope.
  • a person on whom or thing on which one relies: God is my trust.

In whom or what do you put your trust, confident expectation, and hope? Your parents? Your spouse? Money? The government? Your teachers? Your talents and abilities? At the risk of sounding like a downer, I can say with certainty that every single thing under the sun will let you down at some point or another. Parents may disappoint or frustrate you. Spouses are imperfect. Money will run out eventually. Government officials are unreliable. Our own abilities will rust as we get older. Even the sun will let you down. It can burn your skin, melt your ice cream, or hide on your wedding day—and scientists predict that it will use up all its fuel and burn out altogether someday.

But God? He is the same yesterday and today and forever (Hebrews 13:8). The Lord will never leave or forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6-8; Psalm 9:10; Hebrews 13:5). He alone is “is trustworthy in all he promises and faithful in all he does” (Psalm 145:13).

Whenever we put our trust in someone or something, it is evidenced by a subsequent action. If you trust your parents, you will listen to them when they tell you not to cross the street until you’ve looked both ways for oncoming cars. If you trust your spouse, you’re not going to follow him or her around town to spy on his or her every move out of fear of infidelity. If you trust in money, you will place your identity and security in how much money you earn, and you will probably worry about your bills and choose to work excessive hours. If you trust in your own abilities, you might become devastated if you make a mistake at your job or suffer an injury on the athletic field.

If you trust in God you will obey His commands, which are found in His Word. You’ve probably heard that “B. I. B. L. E.” stands for “Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth.” Putting your trust in God means that you will follow these basic instructions in faith, each and every day. You will never ever go wrong by trusting God. Today, commit to memory Proverbs 3:5–6, which encourages us in this way:

Trust in the LORD with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him,
 and he will make your paths straight.

Oh, how comforting it is to rely upon a God who has the power to make our paths straight! It doesn’t matter if your path has been winding and crooked up until this point in time. All you have to do is trust in the Lord and He will correct your course with truth and righteousness. He will level it with love and plant security along its edges. He will remove from your path the weeds of confusion and fear. It’s up to you and it’s up to me to accept that He has a plan for our lives. And when we do, oh, what an adventure it will be! As Charles H. Spurgeon once wrote,

“God has great things in store for His people; they ought to have large expectations.”

Three Days that Changed the World

There has never been an event in history that has so drastically and irreversibly changed the entire world like Jesus Christ’s death, burial, and resurrection. No leader in power, no technological advancement or invention, no war or victory, no speech or political march has ever made such an indelible mark on all of humanity as the redemptive work of Jesus on the cross. Allow me to explain why:

First, despite all our advancements and improvements throughout history, we are still the same flawed human beings. Yes, we are still capable of love, kindness, and caring. But we are also still susceptible to sins that can destroy our lives as well as the lives of others. Though we’ve witnessed inspiring speeches and political movements, we are still prone to war and fighting. We are still blinded by our own pride, ego, and faults. We still divide ourselves by “us” versus “them.” And despite the information and knowledge we’ve amassed, crime continues. Individuals and families are still broken, hurting, and lost.

Second, despite everything we’ve accomplished as human beings since the beginning of time, nothing compares to what Christ accomplished on the cross for the sins of the world. In Mark chapters 14 through 16, we get a closer look at the great price Jesus Christ paid to give us freedom from sin and new life. At the Last Supper, which was also on the day of Passover, Jesus tells His disciples that God is establishing a new covenant. The old covenant with the Jewish people was through the Law. The new covenant would be for both Jews and Gentiles through God’s grace and faith in His Son, Jesus Christ (Hebrews 9:15).

This is amazing news for all of us! We were not able to obey the 613 commands of the Old Testament Law, but now, through Jesus’ death, burial, and resurrection, God made a way for the entire world to be brought together for His glory, for the forgiveness of sins and everlasting life! The free gift of salvation is available to all who believe (Romans 1:16).

In the midst of revealing this incomparable and wonderful news, this was also a bittersweet moment for Jesus and His disciples. He shares that one of them will betray him (Mark 14:18) and that Peter will deny Him three times that very night. Later at the Garden of Gethsemane, as Jesus prayed to the Father and agonized about what would happen to Him, all His companions fell asleep. Jesus said, “Couldn’t you keep watch for one hour? Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak” (Mark 14:37-38). What an important reminder for us all to stay sober and alert lest we fall into sin.

As He predicted, Jesus is arrested and His disciples scatter. Peter indeed denies knowing Him, and when he realizes this, he is filled with deep remorse. Jesus is then condemned and judged, tortured and humiliated, and crucified though He was innocent. But He willingly submitted to God’s sovereignty and fulfilled the Scriptures and prophecies about Him, such as Isaiah 53:4-6:

“Surely he took up our pain and bore our suffering, yet we considered him punished by God, stricken by him, and afflicted. But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on him, and by his wounds we are healed. We all, like sheep, have gone astray, each of us has turned to our own way; and the Lord has laid on him the iniquity of us all.”

Despite our sin, God loves us and rescues us from our sin through His one and only Son Jesus. Three days after His death, Jesus Christ rose from the dead. “For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God” (Hebrews 12:2). He conquered sin and death so that we, too, can have freedom from sin, receive the Holy Spirit, and obtain everlasting life. The Bible says in John 3:16-17, “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.” And again in Romans 5:8, “But God demonstrates His own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”

We now organize our historical calendar (B.C. and A.D.) by Jesus Christ’s arrival on this earth—and rightly so. No other event and no other person in the history of our planet has ever changed everything so dramatically for mankind—not just then, not just now, but echoing into eternity. To learn more about Jesus, please join us at Shepherd Church at our campuses in Porter Ranch, West Valley, West L.A. and Agua Dulce.

Calming Your Storm

Recently we had the biggest storm in five years in Southern California. Almost 10 inches of relentless rain fell in one day, along with high winds and flooding in several areas. It’s hard to imagine a storm like this would have been possible in our sunny city, but once you’re in the midst of it, it can seem like there is no end in sight. You may wonder if the storm will ever end.

Perhaps storms in life are all too real for you. Financial hardships can drench our thoughts with worries. Relationship troubles can flood our hearts with sorrow and pain. Health problems can turn our lives upside down. But no matter what you may be facing today, Jesus Christ has the power to calm your storms.

We find a literal example of this in the Bible in Mark 4:35-41:

Jesus and His disciples were traveling on a small boat when they were suddenly hit by a furious squall. As waves pummeled the boat and threatened to overtake it, Jesus was sleeping soundly on a cushion in the boat’s stern. His disciples woke Him and exclaimed, “Teacher! Don’t you care if we drown?”

In the midst of a personal storm, we can either panic or we can pray.

During the direst circumstances, the best thing to do is to reach for a power outside of ourselves as we recognize our own limitations for answers or control. We witness this in our own lives when we face struggles with loved ones or money or health problems that bring us to the brink of death. We have witnessed this unfold as a community after the Northridge earthquake in 1994. We even witnessed this as a nation, when millions turned to God after the September 11, 2001 terrorist attacks. Whenever we are facing difficult times, God wants His children to call to Him and ask Him for help. As Joel 2:32 says, “And everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.”

Going back to the story in Mark 4:35-41, imagine what a peculiar sight it was for the twelve disciples to see Jesus peacefully asleep in the middle of such a violent tempest. How can you and I find such peace in the midst of our own turmoil? Jesus fully trusted in His Father and knew that God was in control of all things. When you have lost all control, who better to trust than the One who has total control?

The next scene is pretty powerful.

Awakened by His disciples’ cries, Jesus got up and said to the storm, “Quiet! Be still!” as simply as one would shoo a fly or hush a barking dog. And the squall became completely calm. The men who witnessed this amazing feat marveled and said, “Who is this? Even the wind and the waves obey Him!” Jesus can conquer any storm you are going through today. He can save, redeem, deliver, guard, protect, and free you. All you have to do is call out to Him, just as the terrified disciples did on that tiny boat. If your storm is more than you can bear, turn to Jesus and He will see you through it!

There is a common misconception that once you decide to become a Christian your life will be free of tribulation. Nothing could be further from the truth. In fact, Jesus repeatedly warned those who followed Him that they would experience troubles and suffering because they believed in and followed Him. The reality is, everyone, believers and unbelievers alike, will encounter the storms of life—no exceptions, no exemptions. Furthermore, whatever storms you may be weathering today, there are others who are facing the very same thing. These storms vary in size and shape, but the Lord calms both the storms and our fearful hearts.

Once the sea was peaceful again in Mark 4:39, Jesus asked His disciples,

“Why are you so afraid? Do you still have no faith?”

Fear chases away faith, and faith chases away fear. Too often, we lack faith. We have a difficult time believing that God can handle our children, our finances, our health, our schedules, and our other problems. Yet if we learn to entrust the cares and worries of our lives to Jesus in faith, there is no room to fear.

Jesus challenges us to recognize that God gave Him power not only over the winds and waves, but over all seemingly hopeless situations. He wants us to fully put our trust in Him.  Jesus continued to astound the disciples by His power as they walked with Him further and grew in their faith. Likewise, by walking with Jesus daily, we too can experience His power in our lives to deepen our faith and calm all our storms.